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 This blog is to document our experiences with infertility for our friends and family. Wait, we already have a child....yep we do, and that's where we will start, with our miracle baby! 

We tried for a little over a year and a half for our dear Matthew.  After we had been trying for six months I had a strong feeling out of the blue one day that we would get pregnant and it would be a miracle.  It was comforting to me that this would happen.  After we got to the year mark we started to wonder, it was then we started going in for testing.  We went to a regular family doctor (anyone who needs testing done for this I would defiantly recommend starting with an OB by the way!) The going was slow, but we were started. We got some necessary testing done, and yes a problem surfaced. This didn't make it impossible to get pregnant, only very very difficult.  This was on Michael's side of the deal.  So a few months of more testing did not bring any more problematic news.  I was starting to wonder when this miracle baby would occur. We talked with Michael's grandpa who was an OB about the hard time we were having getting pregnant, who told us two things...don't try so hard, and get a priesthood blessing for both of us. We did so. The blessing again promised us we would become pregnant.  A month later, as we were preparing to do the final test the doctor ordered (testing to make sure the tubes weren't blocked) we found out we were pregnant with Matthew...HURRAY!  

Fast forward to the time he is a year old, we decide its time to try for another.  We tried again for another year, with no luck.  This time we decided to take our test results from three years earlier and go to a fertility specialist.  We found out extra information from him, that my hormone levels are in the right range, however, they are in a reverse order than most women's are (one is usually higher than the other). He says this may be an indication that most times I am producing an egg, but occasionally I may not be.  Other than that the tests look good. We do have to get the tube testing done, however. He also said by 18 months 95% of couples can conceive, which means there is a problem somewhere. Michael's condition was discussed and we talked about the option of surgery.  We had looked into and read about it, but didn't know how much it would help which is why we really decided to go to a fertility specialist. He said the surgery would help us up our chances by 15%, sounds like a good number, however when you compare it with the test results, it would not be enough to make the expensive surgery worthwhile.  I don't remember exactly what he said but something like in a normal male 65% of the sperm are good enough to make it to an egg, in our case it is only 14%, so if you add the 15% to that, it is still only 29% and is still far below normal.  So we decided to forgo the expensive surgery option.  
 Next issue, the tube testing we did not do. We know there is at least one tube open because Matthew is here (hurray!), we don't know about the other. If it is not, again decreases our chances of becoming pregnant.   So knowing all this I really realize Matthew was indeed a miracle!  Its not impossible for us to get pregnant, but it is highly improbable.  

Solution?  After looking at the results from testing, we have decided to go with three rounds of IUI, artificial insemination.  This is the least expensive option (but even this adds up!) and also a good fit for us.  We feel good about going forward with this option.  What happens is I have to be on Clomid, HcG, and Progesterone (one of those is a needle to the stomach). I have to track everything closely, as soon as I get a positive ovulation test we run to the doctor the next day or two and do the insemination.  It is about $350 a time.  After 3 month trying, if it doesn't work, we do some more thinking, testing, and see if there are other options for us.  (next option is IVF I think, but at 10,000 not sure if we want to do this or not, especially since it does not necessarily work).  

We are hopeful, and hoping for success, and yes we got another priesthood blessing :).  We are so grateful that we have adequate savings, as the insurance covers only some testing.  We will have payed $250 for the first doctors visit, $170 for an ultrasound, around $166 for these medications, This is almost 1,000 which is not including everything just the things  we know so far, and I know there are more ultrasounds to come.  Without our savings we would never be able to afford any of this on Michael's salary! (we barely make rent..ha ha!) So we are truly blessed and grateful for that money we decided to start saving early on (although we thought we were saving for Michael's schooling and living expenses).  Doing this has enabled us the freedom to attempt to grow our little family, and we are very grateful!  

We are thankful for the many prayers on our behalf.  We will feel we will get pregnant again, but when that time is I don't know, nor how that will occur.  It has been a struggle at times going through this, but it is nice to talk to many other couples who have been there and are currently going through similar issues.   We will keep this updated as we get more news about testing, etc. Thanks again for your support and prayers, they are appreciated!!